When you and your partner both have demanding careers, staying on top of things at home is a struggle. That’s why you have to be strategic about who does what. Make a list of household responsibilities, everything from unloading the dishwasher to picking up your kids after school. Next, categorize each item on the list as “loathe,” “don’t mind,” or “enjoy.” Then assign tasks based on each person’s preferences. Divvying up the work this way can ease tensions and make sure both partners are contributing equally. If there are certain items that both of you loathe, outsourcing can be a helpful option. It’s also a good idea to have weekly or monthly check-ins to compare schedules, ask for support, and shift responsibilities as needed. For example, if you know you’ll need to work late for a few days, your partner will have to pick up the kids. Just make sure to return the favor when your partner needs it.

Adapted from “Finding Balance as a Dual-Career Couple,” by Amy Jen Su

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